This blog is meant as a helpful and fun resource for women who are looking to date honourable, high quality men, who are ready for commitment.

Too often women are seduced by the allure of a Prince in shiny armour, when in reality, the attributes of a Prince may inspire chemistry, but do not equate compatability. Therefore, it is important for women to know how to differentiate between a King (a noble man) and a Prince (a lost boy).

My teachings essentially categorises the two through the differentiating factors between healthy masculine energy and unhealthy masculine energy. A King in a relationship is a man who embodies honourable values and attributes. A Prince, however, embodies more wounded masculine traits, as he has not yet been fully actualised.

Here are some key differentiating factors to look out for:

  • A King knows his purpose and lives his life in alignment with it.
  • His power comes from his grounded stability, dependability, and the strength of both his vision and character.
  • He wants to be the provider and a protector for those he loves.
  • He holds a beautiful vision for his future, not just for himself, but also for those he holds dear.
  • He has a growth mindset and is of service to those he loves and to the world at large.
  • He has a strong internal compass and does not seek validation from others.
  • He can be trusted by his Queen to lead & make decisions with integrity, and with the good of those he cares about as a priority (even if that means rising above their demands).
  • He can be trusted by his Queen to be honest and respectful towards and about her, even in her absence.
  • His sense of value in a relationship comes from how emotionally, physically and financially safe and adored he makes his Queen feel. His goal is for her to relax into her soft feminine, however she chooses for that to look.
  • He has high emotional intelligence and emotional resilience.
  • He is a clear, healthy and effective communicator.
  • He is not afraid to make his feelings clear for his Queen.
  • He is not seduced by momentary thrills. He prioritises long-term fulfilment over short-term amusement.
  • He is fiercely loyal to those he loves.
  • He has strong, healthy boundaries for himself and expects his Queen to honour herself in the same way.
  • He demonstrates through his actions, rather than just his words, his love and commitment to his Queen.
  • He provides a sense of security and “home” – being the “fireplace” rather than the “fireworks”.
  • He is supportive of the dreams of his Queen and helps empower her to achieve them through encouragement and guidance.
  • He has an honourable brotherhood of friends, who are good influence and who inspire him to grow and develop himself in all areas of his life.
  • He has high integrity in all facets of life.
  • He takes care of his healthy – mind, body and soul.
  • He enjoys stepping up to the plate and taking responsibility.

A Prince, however, embodies more wounded masculine energy traits:

  • A knight’s value comes from what he can get from a woman.
  • He is unable to communicate in a healthy, calm manner.
  • His circle of unhonourable friends encourage toxic behaviour
  • He wants to “conquer” as many women as possible, in an attempt to validate his false sense of “masculinity” and “power”.
  • He may appear highly “successful” in the patriarchal sense but lacks integrity.
  • He tries to impress you with ostentatious displays of wealth, status or “manhood”.
  • He tries to weasel his way out of responsibility.
  • His life mission revolves around doing and having things to boost his fragile ego (and that includes his dates!).

It’s important to note that these qualities may be draped in a very seductive façade. A knight may be very attractive, well-dressed, physically fit, and wealthy. He may take you with him on fun, exciting experiences which he pays for and sell you the world through his words. I have even seen these attributes of knighthood being celebrated under the label of a “high-value man”. Don’t allow yourself to be misled by this misinterpretation. Many women, unfortunately, need to learn this lesson the hard way through trial and error –  which in dating terms is labelled as heartbreak.